Stammering and Stuttering
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Are there positives to having a Stammer
A part of your character, not always a bad one
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This may sound odd, are their positives? Of course there are. Like a blind person may adapt to having amazing hearing powers (many are Piano Tuners), stammerers 'adapt' to other things, especially with writing and artistic slants.
Years ago I used to write quite a few songs for the guitar (we don't stutter when we sing!) and I found this a great source for expressing myself and a good reason to learn guitar, join a Band and have an amazing time in my late teens.
I brought my first PC in 1999 and upon downshifting, thought I'd try my hand at a website and I've found this one of the most satisfying experiences of my life.
During my teens, I was very aware of it. I was scared I'd never get a girlfriend, scared I couldn't get a good job and scared even of being asked a question.
Sure there were some jobs which would be great, but impossible maybe. Even now when I look round at part-time jobs for the winter, I know I can't apply for a Call Centre or Receptionist job.
But it doesn't matter. There are jobs I'd apply for, but some others wouldn't and who wants to be faceless person on the end of a phone anyway.
If you have a child with a stammer, try and get it sorted, no messing. But if the treatment doesn't work - don't worry, that child has a skill, a talent which will be good for him and for others.
Something else that's a benefit is that you get to like being yourself and enjoy your own space. Nature, beauty, walking, Sport etc., don't need speech.
Some time ago, owing to a need for rest and reflection, I used to go on 'Retreats' at a Monastery in Burnham Beeches., I found the 'order' of Monastic living fascinating, especially the 'speak when spoken to' and 'only say something if it's worth saying' interesting' approach to life.
There is often a perception amongst people that anyone who is quiet isn't over approachable, a little within themself or just boring!
There are down days, I've certainly had them, especially when I've prepared well for a job interview for something I know I could do very well. You go to the interview and completely clam up and don't get the job. But something else comes along and you see that things are often supposed to be.
To wallow in a stammer will do you no good atall. Enjoy life to the full and have a good time. Don't allow it to become a negative, it's not.
A Stammer doesn't have to hold you back in life
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